The Person

Imagine a wonderful world, nation, community, society, place, people..., if the focus were shifted from our differences to the "The Person". The person in this context is the real you. You are the reason why life go on. You are the reason why I socialize. You are the reason why I wake up each day, and sleep through the night. You are the reason why I want to love and be loved. You are the reason why I take certain decisions. You are the reason why I do all within my powers just to see you again. You are the reason why I don't mind going the extra mile. You are the reason why I shield my heart. You are the reason why I keep holding on. You are the reason why I let go but still can't get you out of my mind. You are the reason why I can't wait for another day to come so I can see you again. You are the reason why life go round for me. You are the reason why I learn and unlearn, only to learn again. You are the reason why life is worth its while.

Most times we tend to allow tribe, religious beliefs, colour, gender, class..., to come between us or become the determinant factor. But these are just shadows and not the substance. The substance is the person that first existed before other affiliations. When we don't know these things, we begin to fight or quarell over certain things that can change at any time or pass away. But the real you abides forever.

Relationships are first of all built around a person before other factors begin to come to play. So when the priorities are not not placed right, the relationship begin to encounter some cracks. Here is a typical illustration: if you noticed there's a thing you like so much such that any draw back (withdrawal) by your loved ones or the people in your life, gets you infuriated or out of control, then you have to check it so as not to shift the focus from the person (s), and place it on things. If you don't correct the impression as soon as you can, you may leave your loved ones thinking you value things compared to them.

Wherever you find yourself at any given time, always remember that the person existed before the group, and other differences. Relationships teaches that even if the person is no longer in the group, it doesn't make the person less than the person itself. Your relationships last longer when you know how to place "the person" and "things" in their rightful place. If only we can see beyond the affiliations attached to the person, and see the person for who he/she is, several conflicts would never had occurred or at least reduced to the bearest minimum. This is how to say I love you from my own point of view: I love the person you are made of and not just the things that make up who you are. #Things #Factors #Differences #Shadows #Real you #The person #Substance.