No Unction No Function

An unction is an excessive but superficial compliments given with affected charm. It is a superficial compliment in the sense that it is concerned with what is apparent or obvious, and the fact that it is given with affected charm makes it more impressive. To function on the other hand is to serve a purpose, role, or obligation... It simply means to be relevant where it matters most.

For anything to function, there must be some drives, tools, boosters..., that propels it into action. Where these pillars, backbones... are missen in action, functionality becomes impaired. No one is an island! Anything you see functioning today, has a source or a backbone. Sometimes it appears to stand alone but in the real sense, something is holding or propelling it forward. The word lonely is only active when the mind accepts it. But a mind that is programmed to function knows nothing as such because it has something that always keeps it busy.

The brain normally is not programmed to be idle but functional. Where it is idle, it tends to look for ways to fill itself up. This is where the mind could accept different suggestions or thought patterns that appeals to it not minding if it is negative or not. It is best to never come to the point where external factors, situations, happenings and what have you, becomes the pace setter. The outcome is not something to reckon with.

One of the ways to be functional or function optimally is to know your limits, capabilities... as well as your circle of influence. If I must be a source of influence or a strong influence in a place, wherever I find myself, and in whatever I set out to do, it means that my opinion should count in any decision making. I mean not just counting alone, it must be treated with care and respect. Otherwise, it leaves me with no choice than to look for where my opinion is acknowledged and respected. That is to say that I shouldn't be there in the first place. Simply put, there's no need to be in a place where you are not considered relevant, as you would only be tolerated and not celebrated.

Never underestimate the power of unction because it provides, generates or produces the oil or lubricant that enables one to function. And looking at it letter wise, the word "Function" cannot be complete without the word "Unction". Take away the word "unction from function" and the answer would be "f" standing on its own. And you would quite agree with me that "f" on its own doesn't make sense unless a word is attached to it. That is the way "Function" appears when "Unction" is not there. I have the will power to decide how it turns out for me in the midst of so many activities and happenings. In other words, your resolve determines your results. Resolve for the best... Don't just function, function with unction!!! #Boosters #Drives #Superficial compliment #Affected charm #Oil #Lubricant #Unction #Purpose #Role #Relevance #Influence #Function.

Possibilities

To the person that believes, all things are possible... These lines are not for fancy but for application. It only become reality when the person (s) in question learn to do more of practice than just the mere reading of it. If you asked me, I don't know how miracles happen but I believe in possibilities. This has guided my choices in life. The way I think, the way I process certain information and thought patterns, the way I make interpretations and draw my conclusions... All of these, helps to mode, shape and make me who I am today.

I had seen, gone through and experienced a lot in my life. Some made me shed tears. Some made me laugh. Some taught me an unforgettable lesson (s). Some made me stronger and wiser, while some paved the way for me.

It might interest you to know that in the midst of these processes, I never gave up on myself or denied myself the opportunity of seeing possibilities. Though there were times I had doubts about where the whole thing would lead to but I never stopped believing. Sometimes I just can't explain how it would happen but I believed anything could happen at any time. Sometimes, when I consider where I am and where I should be or should have been, it kind of make me ask certain questions, seeking for immediate answers. And sometimes certain persons don't make the matter easy. Some would call you names and compell you to take certain decisions unless you are focused, and you would be like: When will all these be over?

However, there are certain things you can't change. The only one you can change is the one you discover that you have the ability to change and develop capacity for it. You don't develop capacity for what you don't see the possibilities... For you to develop capacity for something, it means you have a prospect for such thing. And even if you fall seven times for it, you would pick yourself again and forge ahead.

What is possibility even all about? Possibility is a future prospect or potential. It is the ability of existing or happening or being true. It depicts a state of positivity, telling that something can be done. It is beyond what the ordinary mind can conceive. It takes courage and determination to operate in the realm of the possibilities, especially when there are negativity around or when certain things  point to impossibilities. We should not try to figure it out with our mind because it is beyond the human reasoning. Yours is to stay in the realms of possibilities. When it would happen, it would be a shocker. The realm of possibilities can position us for breakthrough if we let it be. In essence, it won't take anything from you but what you believe in, and turn it to reality in due time. It makes you know that each day is meant to be favourable, and helps you scale through the uncertainties of life. Being happy is not a feeling based on a thing but an expression or state of mind based on possibilities. Sweetheart! It's possible!! Believe it!!! #Believe #Practice #Develop capacity #Prospect #Potential #Possibilities.

Uniqueness (One in a Million)

You are unique! There is no one like you on planet earth, neither would there be any other compared to you, as there would never be another like you. Uniqueness is the quality of being one of a kind. It is a trait or specialty that is exclusively attributed to a person, place, things..., especially you. However, this thought pattern can only be visible when I learn to appreciate myself and that special trait I possess because in doing so, it helps me appreciate people better.

Unique people don't compare themselves with others because they know that they are far different from others. Instead, they try to find out what makes them different from others. If it is in strength, such persons tries to be more (develop capacity) in the area of strength. And where there is weakness, such persons tries to work on it or work it out so as to be better. The real unique person is as the word unique itself.

The discovery of uniqueness is a process, and matures in the fullness of time. The day you realise how unique you are, that day you'd stop begging for people's love, desist from being the victim, while aiming at becoming the victor. Though sometimes, you may fall or make mistakes, but then it only becomes a lesson to learn from, as you would pick yourself up again and move on. This is what I call uniqueness in action.

As you move on in this journey (process) called uniqueness, you'd begin to experience some hidden virtues in you, you never thought was there. And as you begin to appreciate the magnitude of your powers and the treasures inside of you, it radiates... Those who couldn't love you, now begin to see a different you. And even when some of them pretend not to notice it, they still can't help but to feel the warmth of your person. The worst some of them would say is: I don't fancy him/her that much, but there's something about him/her.

Sentiments aside! If you are good at what you do, some persons may not like you but would certainly not deny the fact that you are good at what you do. This can only occur when you discover what makes you unique from the other person and improve on it. Take it up, and bring it down, a unique person always does something that makes him or her unique. And whenever you see such trait in display, whether you are sleeping or awake, you just can't help but attribute it to the name of such person (s).

It pays to be unique! It attracts attention, and increase the rate of turnover. When I come to the full knowledge and understanding of how unique I am, it makes me advertise my person my way, hence making me one in a million. #One of a kind #Trait #Specialty #Hidden virtues #Treasure #One in a million.

Balancing Happiness And Reality

Nothing is strong enough to take away my smiles if I really want to smile. The same is applicable to you if you really want to. This is because there are no rules and regulations that says you cannot be happy if you want to inspite of what may be happening around you. It is a state of mind, and therefore not dependent majorly on the things we see, the environment we find ourselves, what we have or don't have but dependent on what comes from within. This thought pattern makes me see happiness in a different style and way.

By happiness in this context, I mean the unquenchable, irresistible, unfathomable... joy that flows from within (the heart). The joy that knows no bound! The joy that cannot be explained! The joy that makes people wonder how you live your life in the midst of so many distractions, activities..., and happenings around you. And they are like this cannot just be happiness in itself, because what they see is beyond happiness itself. May I please use this medium (platform) to announce to you that happiness is not the absence of the realities of life, but the building of capacity to accommodate life's difference in such a way that happiness is discovered, achieved or intact, as each differences unfolds. From the above, one can define happiness as a state of well being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to immence joy. Do you now see why I say and wouldn't mind saying that nothing, I mean no damn thing is strong enough to stop my smiles if I really want to smile.

Most people think that when you're happy in the midst of certain circumstances or perhaps economic melt down, that you're not being realistic... These and more are the reasons why happiness is not based on things or happenings, yet it does not push aside the role of the realities of life in influencing happiness but shifts the focus or should I say places emphasis on the need to develop capacity to accommodate life's challenges or differences as they come, while still finding your place in happiness. When this is achieved, you become a wonder on earth, a mentor and a book to be read as no one would understand how you utilise the resources within your reach that some others consider to be small, and turn it to a huge (big) harvest.

The knowledge (discovery) of true happiness, has helped me to be content with what I have while reaching out for more. It has helped me to believe in myself, and not to see myself less than the other, it doesn't matter what the other has or don't have. For time and chance happen to them all. When you have the winner mentality, it makes you confident, help you appreciate yourself and the others in your life, making you know that you have a choice to be happy amidst the realities of life. Sweetheart! You only have one life to live. Make it worthwhile by living happy each day! #Smiles #Happiness #Joy #The heart #Reality #Building capacity #Balancing happiness and reality.

Five Magic Words

I am one of those who believe strongly that words are powerful, and knowing how to effectively use them, makes the user powerful also. Words are endless as you can always find a seasoned word for each season if you search deeply the word each season requires of you. Words doesn't just come alive! It is being produced by the human race as a natural ability and given interpretations. These interpretations can come in different forms or format as a word can mean different things to different people. What is a word?

A word is a unit of language that native speakers can identify. Language on its own is a systematic means of communicating by use of sounds or conventional symbols. That is to say that words are the product of languages. In other words, without language, there would be no word, and without words, there's definitely no languages.

It is pertinent to state here that there are different (uncountable) words for different needs depending on the need that is to be met, yet in the midst of words, there are unique words that meet needs faster than imagined. Sometimes these words appear simple, and are mostly ignored by some of us simply because we've not come to realise how effective these words are until we engage these words. Then and only then, would we begin to see how magical these words can be. Please indulge me as I take you on a ride on the five magic words that are ever trendy and result oriented if used appropriately:

Please: In this context, the word please is used in polite request. However, you would still find some people who find it difficult to say please. They would rather keep the request to themselves or force their way through, which is uncultured. It doesn't take anything to say please.

Excuse me: This has divers interpretations. It's still a polite way of making request. Simply put, it's the taking of exemption from someone for a particular act.

Sorry: In this context, sorry is a polite way of saying that one is remorseful over certain misdeed or misconduct.

Thank you: This is a conversational expression or appreciation. It is a way of saying that you are grateful for what someone has done.

Pardon me: In this context, we can use pardon me when we want something to be repeated. It is also used in the form of sorry when one has made an impolite sound...

Imagine where these five magic words are put to use each day within the seven days of the week, then certain issues would be drastically reduced. Besides that, these words help to colour the lives of its users and make such persons attractive to unmerited favours and blessings. #Powerful words #Please #Excuse me #Sorry #Thank you #Pardon me #Five magic words.

Choose What To Respond To

There are a lot of manipulations flying around these days such that even those who are expected to know better are falling prey for it that they unknowingly become forerunners of these manipulations. Times like these are not times to be vulnerable or too naive to read in - between the lines. It may quite interest you to know that there are certain persons whose job description is to seek for ways to bring people down behind such person's back. It is quite appalling to note that it is the people you don't expect this from that actually do it, and yet some of them pretend to be with you all the way. Who is deceiving who?

It is even better sometimes to come out straight in the open saying this is who I am or this is what I feel should be done while speaking good behind the person's back. This makes the person in question to appreciate you for your courage and bravery compared to when you speak good about the person in the open, only to be draining the person secretly. The height of it all is when nothing worthwhile comes out of such persons mouth whether in the secret or in the open. In fact, this kind of people are the people you don't want to spend quality time with so they don't influence you negatively or make you become like them or come down to their level. You don't need to be loquacious about it. It is a matter of instinct!

Much as we can't run away from these rumourmongers, we can put them to check or keep them in check to curtail certain excesses. Don't wait till you become the victim before you get up and act like a victor. It is not the best to assume that everybody truly love you. Off course not! If only you can read through the hearts of certain persons, you'd be amazed by your findings. But are you going to stop being you because some persons have a problem with it?

What has kept me going in the midst of countless distractions is the proper understanding of who I am, and the place of things in my life. In life, you need to know what to adhere (listen) to, and as such choose what to respond to. You mustn't listen to every rumour that fly around in town, and as a matter of fact, you mustn't respond to everything that tries to get your attention by all means. This is where you have to be with all your senses so as not to fall prey or victim or even fall into a trap or being set up.

There's no guiding rules as to choosing what to respond to. The wise become wiser when he/she can interprete certain terms in words and actions that others cannot. Don't play to the gallery. Choose wisely what to respond to. #Choose #Be wise #Don't be vulnerable #Don't fall victim #Interprete well #Choose what to respond to.

Become The Book

A book is a written work or composition that has been printed on pages and bound together. Simply put, any written work or composition that has been prepared and issued for public distribution or sale (published) is called a book.

There are different types of books today in the market, place of work, business centres, houses, in fact at different locations and what have you. These books are written for different purposes, needs, moods, at different atmosphere, and for different reasons depending on its targeted audience.

The targeted audience is very important here as this would determine if the book would sell, and not just sell alone but satisfy the essense for which it was published. So therefore, it's not all about writing or publishing a book, we must be able to ask ourselves some thoughtful questions like: who and who would need this book? Is the content strong enough to achieve the aim or purpose of the book? How do I get this book to its targeted audience? What methodology or strategy should I employ taking into consideration the resources available to me? What if it didn't go as planned, after playing my part, what do I do? What if there's an unnoticed error along the the way, what corrective measure should I put in place? Did I really place myself in the shoes of the targeted audience? Do I enjoy reading the book bearing my audience in mind? The lists are limitless!

Studies have shown that readers understand better when one become the book than just what is written. As a matter of fact, people respond better to what they see you do than what you say you do. When you become the book, readers will not find it difficult to assimilate as there would be no ambiguity whatsoever.

I am aware of the fact that the book is different from the person, but the person is not entirely different from the book. There must be some magnitude of match if not all. The book cannot be saying something else, while the life of the writer is totally different from the book. If so, there would be a disconnect somewhere. This is not to emphasize a life without weakness or mistakes but to create a balance between the writer and the book, so the reader doesn't get it all twisted. This is why people can relate with you better, when you tell your own stories, because it is assumed that it is real, and that it happened live. So if someone is going through such experiences, and reads about the measures you adopted to scale through such experiences, it becomes easy for the reader to comprehend.

So therefore if I must write a book, I must put into consideration to a large extent my targeted audience (readers). This is the only way I can effectively communicate or pass across my message to my readers. In summary, it is much more better to become the book than to write the book itself. Becoming makes the lines of any written book catchy and interesting because it speaks of reality. #Reality #Written work #Composition #Prepared #Public distribution #Sale #Targeted Audience #Experience #Your own stories #Become the book.

Flexibility (Different Roles)

Assuming or playing different roles in life can be quite demanding especially when you have to switch into certain roles at a given period of time amidst the various responsibilities one has to put up with. However, with flexibility, I can explore diverse areas within my purpose and passion, knowing fully well that there are no lasting limitations except that created and nurtured in the mind. For no one has really seen the best of you yet until the better becomes the best.

Flexibility is the property of being easily bent or shaped. It is the opposite of rigidity. Flexibility is a state of being adaptable to a particular situation or use. It means you can make adjustments at any time and fit in into a new system or way of life without becoming less than who you are or losing yourself. People who are flexible are open minded people, and can welcome new developments and innovations at any time without being resistant. Also, flexible people are not easily predictable but trustworthy. I know when certain of us hear the word not predictable, we would begin to put one or two together. This is the reason why I had to chip in the word trustworthiness. Yes, you can become the real you and still possess the tendency of being bent or shaped. It's all in the mind.

I am always of the opinion that no two persons are the same. Different opinion, different mindset! While one says everything is working out for my good, the other may be saying it's only some that is working out. While some can play different roles, some can only be restricted to certain roles. It's a matter of choice!

However, the focus is not just playing different roles, but to be certain if the roles played are in concordance with one's purpose and passion in life. If not, there's going to be a clash of interest somewhere as the human system is not wired to function optimally for long in a field or atmosphere it is not designed for. The resultant effect of this is struggling as well as other aftermaths associated with it. But for how long will it take?

The reverse is the case when one is functioning or playing various roles within one's purpose... There you are not too careful to explore or become a better you. Some of these areas boost very fast, while some take some time to emerge. Your first understanding of the place where you are expected to function makes you rest assured that it will surely speak (come to pass), as you are not in competition with anyone.

Here is my take! Never allow anyone compell you or make you think that you are not eligible to the life that is ment or planned out for you simply because time frame differs. If you hold on to your convictions firmly, when it would happen, you would be amazed.

Assuming different roles is adventurous, but be sure it is within your purpose and passion. Furthermore, flexibility doesn't just teach you how to play different roles but it also point out certain attitude that should not be in your list, so you can do something about it. #Assuming different roles #Switch #Exploring #Adaptation #Adjustment #Welcoming new development #Not predictable #Trustworthiness #Easily shaped.

Protection

It is said that only the person (s) who wears the shoes knows where it pinches or hurts. Until we wear the shoes, we never would be able to tell where it hurts. This is why the role of understanding cannot be overemphasized. It makes you assume the role of the next person while walking in your shoes. This in the end helps to get rid of mere feelings for the appropriate attitude.

Protection is the activity of shielding someone or something against harm or discomfort. It's a simple equation, and this is how I solve it: whatever it is that you have under your care, if it's genuinely yours, you would do all you can within your powers to protect it. This very act when carried out, is seen as a high level of responsibility. Suffice it to say that this is how winners attitude should be.

To effectively protect what belongs to me, I must know my boundaries (territories), possessions, acquisitions..., as well as my limitations. This enables me to know what line of action to take in any situation I find myself. Let's be very realistic here! No two persons are the same. The way I would handle a particular situation or challenge may be different from the way you may handle yours. In other words, my approach may be different from yours. This is because I have my pace, you have your pace. This is what makes us different people. So trying to force people into what they are reluctant to doing or expecting me to do it the way others want me to, is being unrealistic.

What is realistic then? This is when I am allowed to make choices I feel would make me better, being guided by people who genuinely love me, and not the ones who pay lip service, and yet are not willing to take responsibility for me.

Protection is not just in mere words. It's all encompassing, as it cuts across all works of life. Protection does not in any ways suggest a state of being domineering or overprotective. It is an act of guiding and shielding from harm while allowing such person (s) to be free. Protection teaches on how to shield what you value most without tampering with your freedom. Where freedom is missen in protection, then it is only tending to being overprotective.

It is in place to always protect what rightfully belongs to you. However, in all that you protect, don't forget to protect your tongue as well as your heart. #Shielding #Understanding #Responsibilities #Guidance #Freedom #Protection.

Winning Attitude

Winning is an attitude and not a feeling. The good thing about it is that it takes the focus off certain differences and places it on the person (s) who dare for the crown. And as such, it allows the person (s) who deserves it to emerge. To win is to succeed with great difficulty. It also means to become the winner in a contest or competition. Simply put, it means to be victorious.

Winning is very attractive as it captures interest and draws attention from all and sundry. Noticed that prior to the emergence of a winner, nobody knows him/her. Neither would people care to identify with such a fellow. And then the hero comes along with the strength to carry on, pressing through the crowd amidst his/her fellow rivals with a winning attitude mindset. Sometimes, for such persons, at a point, it appears like it won't get any better, considering the difficulty and the drillings he/she had to go through. And sometimes, you would quite agree with me that you just feel like giving it up or calling it quit, but somehow, you don't just know how you manage to scale through or where the strength came from, you just find yourself in the limelight. This is why winning is not a feeling, because if we were to judge it by feelings, I am sure no one would even dare to become a winner.

Let's be realistic a little bit. Even in our daily routines, we don't find it that easy coping with work and the stress of the day, let alone where you now have competitors or rivals. I bet you, it would be the survival of the fittest.

I am quite aware of the fact that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong..., but time and chance happen to them all, yet the promising crowned winner has to put up a winning attitude before the crown can get to him/her. Crowns don't meet people who are unprepared for it. If it does, instead of making or adding to such persons, it takes away from them.

Sweetheart! Do you want the crown? Take it easy! The crown is not the issue. The issue is can we handle the responsibilities that comes with the crown? If yes, be sure you are fit for it because it's going to come with so many packages you never bargained for but then, it would be worth its while.

It is therefore commendable to always have a winning spirit. This is because people with a winning spirit or attitude, don't give up so easily no matter what such persons encounter. Having a winning attitude doesn't make you less but gives you a hedge over your rivals, for life only reward winners. So it's not just enough to feel like a winner, but to let it reflect in your attitude, and in the works of your hands. That's the only way it can come alive into reality. People who proffer solutions are friends to the far and near... The Star prior to his/her emergence, was unknown, until the day of coronation. This is the life of a winner. #Success #Victory #Attractive #Hero #Emergence #Coronation #Star #Winner.

The Person

Imagine a wonderful world, nation, community, society, place, people..., if the focus were shifted from our differences to the "The Person". The person in this context is the real you. You are the reason why life go on. You are the reason why I socialize. You are the reason why I wake up each day, and sleep through the night. You are the reason why I want to love and be loved. You are the reason why I take certain decisions. You are the reason why I do all within my powers just to see you again. You are the reason why I don't mind going the extra mile. You are the reason why I shield my heart. You are the reason why I keep holding on. You are the reason why I let go but still can't get you out of my mind. You are the reason why I can't wait for another day to come so I can see you again. You are the reason why life go round for me. You are the reason why I learn and unlearn, only to learn again. You are the reason why life is worth its while.

Most times we tend to allow tribe, religious beliefs, colour, gender, class..., to come between us or become the determinant factor. But these are just shadows and not the substance. The substance is the person that first existed before other affiliations. When we don't know these things, we begin to fight or quarell over certain things that can change at any time or pass away. But the real you abides forever.

Relationships are first of all built around a person before other factors begin to come to play. So when the priorities are not not placed right, the relationship begin to encounter some cracks. Here is a typical illustration: if you noticed there's a thing you like so much such that any draw back (withdrawal) by your loved ones or the people in your life, gets you infuriated or out of control, then you have to check it so as not to shift the focus from the person (s), and place it on things. If you don't correct the impression as soon as you can, you may leave your loved ones thinking you value things compared to them.

Wherever you find yourself at any given time, always remember that the person existed before the group, and other differences. Relationships teaches that even if the person is no longer in the group, it doesn't make the person less than the person itself. Your relationships last longer when you know how to place "the person" and "things" in their rightful place. If only we can see beyond the affiliations attached to the person, and see the person for who he/she is, several conflicts would never had occurred or at least reduced to the bearest minimum. This is how to say I love you from my own point of view: I love the person you are made of and not just the things that make up who you are. #Things #Factors #Differences #Shadows #Real you #The person #Substance.

Work Conduct

Work is an activity directed towards exerting oneself by doing something mental or physical for a purpose or out of necessity. It is anything that someone is actively engaged in to receive some sort of payments in form of rewards, remuneration (wages), interest, profits... No work is less than the other. It depends on how you see it. The major question should be: do I enjoy the work..., I am doing? If not, even if it pays well or the benefits are mind blowing (catchy, appealing...), it would still have some question mark (?).

Conduct on the other hand is the manner of acting or controlling oneself. It is also the way of administering a business and what have you in such a way that it yields the desired results or returns. In simple terms, it means to direct the course of a thing, manage or control it.

Most of the time, especially nowadays, people don't really care about whether they enjoy what they do, as long as it pays well. Off course, you wouldn't blame them that much. What do you expect? When there are lots of bills to take care of, with each one calling for attention. As if that is not enough, you still have pressures from family members, as well as pressing responsibilities to cater for, both present and in the future. You haven't even mentioned yourself and the list are piling up, and you are wondering how do I meet up with my responsibilities considering the limited resources available to me?

All of the above are facts pointing to the need for a well paid work, business..., yet it still cannot replace the question I need to ask myself, which says: do I really enjoy the work I do?

One basic truth to note is that expenses will never end. There would always be one bill or the other to take care of, and the circle goes round and round. The implication of this is that: if you don't enjoy the work you do, it saps you up gradually, run your energy out, distort productivity, giving one reasons to always complain, weakens enthusiasm... Soon, one begin to get tired of the work, and invariably start searching for another. And if the another doesn't come, the person gets stuck there, no drive, no vibe, no improvement..., but just working to take care of bills.

The case is different if you enjoy what you do. Even if it doesn't pay well at the moment, there is this inner peace, warmth, enthusiasm and zest to do better. You want to manage what you have effectively as you look out for something bigger and better. There is this faith that makes you know that you are moving from glory to glory. This enables you to live within your means as you press on for greater heights. And because you enjoy what you do, it flows with less health problems and other issues associated to not enjoying what you do.

By the way, you would quite agree with me that we don't survive mainly by what we earn alone, because it would never be enough. At least, this one, I know for sure. Don't get it twisted! It is worthwhile to have a well paid job. However, it is more profitable to enjoy the work you do. #Exertion #Physical #Mental #Actively engaged #Payment #Administering #Managing #Control #Work conduct.

Fit For It

To be fit is to be capable of meeting adequate standards for a purpose. It also means to satisfy a condition or restriction or to be the right size or shape of a thing.

Sometimes, some of us jump into certain activities, task..., because certain persons wanted us to do it or become it, without considering if we are fit enough for such. Little wonder why a number of us perform below expectation because as far as some of us are concerned, we are just trying to impress as we are not fit for what we are compelled to do, yet the person (s) we are trying to impress does not even give a hoot about us, nor do they even imagine we ever existed. No one says we should not do what we are expected to do especially when compelled to do so, but this is where wisdom is profitable to direct. Common sense they say is not common. There are ways to handle certain situations especially the ones you do not have major say over, but first, there are certain questions one must ask his or herself such as: This task I am about to embark on, is there a possibility of doing it in a later time or date without it affecting the specified time limit I am expected to do it, and still achieve a better result? What if I weighed the advantages and disadvantages of not doing a particular thing I am not fit for at a particular time, and the disadvanges are minimal, can I risk not doing it, even if others think otherwise of me? What if I did it anyways as specified, and I did not get the desired results as targeted, would I have met the said requirement or succeeded in meeting the specified goal or objective? Would it be worthwhile if I took some rest, and come back refreshed full of life to face the task? What if I didn't do it at all, would it make me less than I am? What if I walk away from it, would it make life not go on for me anymore?

The above questions and lots more are what I should ask myself before making certain decisions on whether to do certain things or not. You are not in a competition with anyone even though there are competitions everywhere, for true competition is when you resolve within yourself to be the best at what you do. And to be the best, you have to be fit!

Never rush into anything that you are not certain about its outcome or you know you are not fit for due to undue pressure compelling you to do so. On the long run, you may wish you never did. Yes it is good to take some risk but you have to be selective about the kind of risk you take. Certain persons may not understand why you took such decisions, but some day, they would come to see reasons why you did what you did. Just a quick one! Before you take that bold step or whatever it is that you intend to embark on, be sure you are fit for it. #Capacity #Standard #Right size #Right shape #Satisfy a condition #Satisfy certain questions #Fit for it.

Don't Add To The Problem

Anyone who is not helping in solving one problem or the other, is only helping in adding more problems. And no one needs that now in the world.

The human race naturally is created to solve one problem or the other. These problems differs in nature, and are in different sizes or levels depending on the capacity of the person (s) handling these problems and proffering the necessary solutions. Like I said afore time, problems differs, and also is the solving ability. Therefore there's no need for comparison as each person is unique in his/her approach to solving problems.

If you look around today, you would notice that there is one problem or the other waiting to be solved. While some are springing up, some have lingered for too long as the hearts of the people yearn for solution. Yet it would still amaze you that while some are busy searching for solution, some are also busy adding more problems to the existing problem. Still these persons join the masses complaining about the same problem whereas they know within themselves that they are the problem themselves. This does not in anyways include the innocent ones who are only concerned about the problem and therefore become emotional about it. My focus is on those who delight and make gains out of the problem at the expense of the majority, yet are not proffering any solution to the problem.

Follow me closely! I am quite aware of the fact that there are people who see opportunities in problems, and therefore thrive even in the midst of the problem. These are people who have trained the mind positively to see problems as stepping stones to greater height rather than the mere word problem. You would quite agree with me that these are mostly the kind of people who tend to seek for ways to solve the problem unlike their counterparts who are mostly concerned about the gains they make out of it, and therefore wished the problem never came to an end.

One thing is sure! If you live in a system, you are part of the system. And because you are connected in certain ways, you feel what the system feel. So for those who think it doesn't concern them, after all, they are not feeling the heat, someday they would understand that what goes around comes around.

Some of the things we do with the mindset that nobody would say or do anything about it, in the short or long term, has consequences. And when these consequences begin to unfold, we start looking for solution here and there, blaming it on something else. But then, it is the aftermath of what some of us have done.

This is my resolve (take), and I don't mind saying it over and over again... Anyone, who is not interested in helping to solve a particular problem, should also not be interested in adding more problems to it. A better way of saying it is: such person (s) should do all within his/her power to bridle the tongue. #Problems #Approach #Aftermath #Capacity #Opportunities #Solution.

Long Life

For anyone who desires to live long and see good days, such persons must be willing to guide his/her tongue with all deligence that it speaks seasoned words.

To live long is to lead a certain kind of life that indicates a relatively great or greater than average duration or passage of time or a duration as specified. It also means to live in a certain style for an extended time or at a distant time. Living long is not just in the length of days alone but it's also measured in the kind of life that is being lived during this period of time or length of days.

People come and people go, but do you know why certain persons would live in your heart forever? It is the impact such persons have been able to make in your life. It is not all about where the person (s) hails from, nor is it about the tribe, race, colour, background, class, age..., but the person. The person in this context means the true individual without the desire to impress but with the desire to become who he/she was made to be yet keeping it real.

To live long is to write your name in the heart of history. Wonder why certain persons live on long after they pass on? It is evident in the way such persons lived their lives. So while others are seeing them as people who are long gone, some are seeing them as people who are still alive because of the memory of such persons which continues to linger on.

I have come to terms with the fact that no matter what we do, some of us will pass on someday. The difference is in the timing. So I would rather live my life being happy than looking for reasons to be unhappy because life is too short to begin to attach so many weights to yourself amidst the busy schedule and activities of every day life. Happiness is not measured in what you possess or do not possess. Off course, there are people who have the whole world but are not happy while there are people who don't have it, yet are happy. I've always said this: it has to do with the mind. Nothing is too small if you know where to find the multiplier effect. In other words, if you know the multiplier, there would be some kind of calm (rest of mind), knowing that your source of supply does not come from man but from the one who gives man the opportunity to be a channel of blessing to you.
This is one of the reasons why the little can increase, and the small can become great. It is advisable to never think less than you aught to think because of what you're going through. Yes, it could be tempting but you can still gain control because you have the ability to accept or jettison any thought pattern whatsoever.

Long life is finding a reason to live or reasons to live where certain others cannot  find. Your mind has a majoy role to play because that is the legacy you would have left behind when you are not around. #Special kind of life #Relatively great life #Greater than average #Life in style #Extended time #Distant time #Reason(s) to live #Long life.

Asking And Receiving

"Ask and you shall receive; seek and you shall find; knock and the door shall be opened unto you". Does it look like I am beginning to sound religious? Off course not! On the contrary these words are basic truths that should be applicable to life encounters but for those who claim to be religious but denying the power thereof, these words are become mere words. However, any misconception whatsoever doesn't in anyways neutralise the efficacy of these basic truths.

There is a deeper revelation about asking and receiving that transcends the mere phrase "Asking and Receiving". I am very optimistic about the fact that sometimes you ask and you receive immediately, while some other times, you ask and you don't receive immediately until you press harder with interest (determination) that you really needed what you are requesting for. So don't get it twisted! You would not always receive anything by just mere asking. Sometimes, you have to push (press) further to receive from the giver. This is where seeking comes in handy.

Seeking is a higher level of asking. To seek after something is to go beyond asking for it to reaching out (searching) for it till you find (get) it. In other words, you have to be willing or determined to have it by showing that keen interest that you really need it.

To be realistic, there are people who wouldn't even dare, let alone to give to you if you don't give them reasons why they should give to you, while some others would release it immediately to you before you say it. These are two different class or set of people who have principles to uphold and should not be judged by certain actions taken simply because it didn't favour you. Your concern should be how to endear yourself to these persons such that even with certain principles to uphold, such persons still give to you. Your mind, attitude, charisma and what have you, are needed to receive from these persons.

Funny enough, the Creator (Almighty) is like that. Sometimes you ask, and receive immediately. But some other times, you need to seek before you can find. And let me wow you a bit, sometimes you need to go beyond seeking by knocking.

To receive certain things depending on the weight of what is sought after, which is likened to one open door or the other, you need to knock. Have you ever knocked on certain doors that people are expected to be inside, and yet it takes a lot of time to be opened? Remember, there are levels of doors or gates! Some of them you would knock and knock and knock, and just when you are about to give it up or let go, the answer shows up.

All of the above are not ment to purnish you but to make you stronger, knowing that you cannot be given more than you can bear. It also bring to your consciousness that you don't always get what you want, but you can get what you need. Mastering the phase (level) that you operate in, only make you better, stronger and wiser!!! #Asking #Press further #Seeking #Higher level #Knocking #Receiving #Finding #Open doors.

Where The Mind Finds You

In time past, we were made to believe that being what you want to be has a lot to do with where you find yourself at any given period of time. Well, I wouldn't say there's no element of fact in it but beyond where you find yourself is a higher thought process that states that it is not hugely about where you find yourself that matters but where your mind finds you.

The environment we find ourselves in, the kind of people we come accross, the things we see around us, the kind of lifestyle we adopt..., no doubt, all these rob off in our lives. But then, even in the midst of all these tendencies, you would still find someone or persons worthy of emulation. I mean persons who do not allow their environment, circumstances, events to dictate the pace on how they should live their lives; persons who always think out of the box, comfort zones, while utilising opportunities as it comes.

The mind has a way that it operates. It attracts what you attract to it. Normally, where the mind is idle, anything can come in and take residence. This is because the mind is not isolated from its environment, what it senses, as well as the people it engages, but it can be independent if well equipped. This leads to the mind renewal process.

For the mind to really function to its optimum, it has to be renewed day in, and day out. The essence of all these is to make the mind fit, healthy, sound, hail and hearty, and formidable for the challenges of life. There are so many ways to renew one's mind. The Word (Bible) is a recommended tool anytime any day.

Let me diversify a bit. Have you ever wondered why certain persons (people) no matter the well cultured and human friendly environment they find themselves, they still don't see themselves become anything worthwhile? Perhaps, you must have seen some persons armed with wealth and power, and yet they don't know what to do with it or with their lives, whereas some persons who others consider as poor in a low class environment as said by them, yet do great things and utilise resources allocated to them effectively. The difference is not in what such persons possess, have or don't have but in the mind. Give such Judicious poor fellow a chance, and such persons would turn it into gold.

Nobody wishes to be in an environment that is not tasteful but such is life. All fingers are not equal. The poor we would always have among us just like the rich. But it is better to be among the rich if you can. You don't need to be someone else to become rich. In that little that you do, be a solution, think ahead (big)..., and you would be attracted to wealth.

I have learnt to position my mind not to focus more on problems but on how problems can be solved because there would always be one challenge or the other to get to the next level as far as life is concerned, and I am still learning. You too can be part of this learning process. #Environment #Kind of People #Lifestyle #Mind #Judicious #Challenge #Solution #Learning #Mind renewal #The word.

Thinking Onwards

To think onwards is to reason or utilise the mind to consider something carefully in a forward direction. It is the capacity to reason out a matter, idea, thought pattern etc, in a manner that propels one forward. Thinking onwards simply means thinking out of the box, comfort zones, or any place that tend to make you get too satisfied with where you are, hence making you or pushing you to the next phase of your life.

Thinking onwards does not mean some negative thoughts won't cross your mind, and that there won't be times when one would think backwards. What it is saying in essence is that in the midst of the negative thoughts trying to get your attention, you are still in control, replacing it with positive thoughts. And even when you have to look backwards or take some steps backwards, you still haven't lost your focus of moving forward, hence a redirection from backwards to forward.

Make no mistakes about it, there would be times when in order for you to think onwards, you would have to think backwards. It happens to almost everybody. It occurs sometimes during the period of reflection. And sometimes, for someone to move forward, one has to take some steps backwards. I am sure you must have heard statements like the way up, is to know the way down. These are things that just don't happen in the movies alone, they happen in reality. Sometimes we get so fixed on the onward part, that we forget that some backward parts lead to the onward part. There are no one route to the part of success. If there has to be, then it has to be the supernatural. Here on planet earth, no one can say he/she is the only way or his/her path is the only path that leads forward.

To think that some of us want to be going up and up without knowing the way down, is what tickles my fancy. Hello sweet! Take it slow (easy), life is not like that. Sometimes you go up, and sometimes you come down.

I understand what it means to be up there and then one comes down. But the fact is that your downtimes doesn't make you less than who you are. It is a time for you to reflect, appraise, put the necessary measures in place, and refire again. It's all in the mind. So anyone who is taking advantage of your down times, is only doing it at his/her own risk.

The reasons why certain persons would want to stay up forever without tasting what it means to come down, would suggest to you the kind of spirit that is at work in them. These are reasons why certain people would do unwholesome things and the unbelievable to stay up there. But does it last forever? What goes up must come down, and if it comes down the wrong way, it crash lands.

But the onward thinking is not so, it knows when to think backwards and forward. It also knows how to manage going backwards and moving forward. This is the quote: I move forward when I think onwards. The only time looking backwards can benefit me, is when it redirects me forward... #Reason #Consider carefully #Reflect #Appraise #Forward direction #The next Phase.

Birthdays

A birthday is an anniversary of the day on which a person was born or the celebration of it. It is a special day in one's life that is set aside for celebration or reflection. Birthdays are part of the human "to do" list that is not so easily forgotten. It is a date worth saving and remembering.

Birthdays add colours to people's lives. This is shown in the way people feel on the day of their birthdays. And even the ones that do not recall or take pleasure in celebrating it due to reasons best known to them, a courtesy call, act of kindness, inspiring text message, acts of love..., gets them into the mood. It is not a matter of how rigid, or principled someone may appear to be, but a matter of life, a matter of birth, a matter of addition, a matter of reflection of all that surrounds one's birth. It's a matter of recalling all that one had been through before the present phase of life (addition).

To put it in perspective, we all make resolutions, plans, set goals and objectives. For some of us, the achievement of these goals are grouped into long term and short term. For some, we do appraisals monthly, quarterly, yearly, depending on our choices. However, I have come to discover that majority of us dont take yearly appraisals for granted. We want to make sure we meet up with our set targets before the year runs out. So we map out different forms of appraisal for assessment. And for a calculated number of us, we use our birthdays as a bench mark.

Follow me closely as I do the illustration of what could be running through some minds. Some would be like: my birthday would be coming up by certain date, at least, I am supposed to have achieved this or that before that date. How am I going to celebrate it? May be I could travel out by then. Or better still, celebrate it around in grand style. What am I going to wear, or how do I host this event according to my taste, and make it a birthday to remember?

The above is a few sample of what could be running through certain people's mind about their birthdays especially the people who have what it takes to celebrate it. You wouldn't blame such persons. It tells you how powerful birthdays are. Come to think of it, if you don't celebrate yourself on your day whether you have much or not, no one would do that for you. It doesn't have to be a five star before it can be celebrated. You can celebrate it within your reach or means. However, if you have to make it five star, it's your choice.

I am aware of the fact that some don't see birthdays as a big deal. For some, it comes and it goes. This is a reorientation! There are various ways to mark a birthday if you are creative and innovative. You don't have to follow the crowd the way they do it. You can stand out, be different and stylish. You can carve a nitche for yourself and make your birthdays worth recalling, even by those who were part of it. These and more are ways to make the memories of certain birthdays linger (live) on. #Celebration of a day #Anniversary #Calls #Acts of kindness #Inspiring text messages #Gifts #Acts of love #Birthdays.

Instinct 101

You would never know the power of instinct until you narrowly escape an unsafe risky venture. Instinct is an inborn pattern of behaviour that is responsive to specific stimuli. It is that sensitive feeling that tells you or give you a warning or restrain about something. Instincts are gifts from above. It is that natural ability that helps you discern whether something is genuine or not. Every human on planet earth is born with it. The question is do we all use it?

There must have been times in your life when you are faced with certain thought pattern or decisions that could influence or determine a lot, which could either bring you down or lift you up. I am sure then that something must have prompted your decisions. It could be the terms and conditions in such decisions. It could be about the legitimacy of such decisions. It could also be connected to how realistic or authentic such decisions are. Certain questions would have been running through the mind simultaneously at such moments, so as to gain a common ground before taking such decisions. Questions like: is this thing real? Am I sure I am doing the right thing? Is it durable? Is it really genuine? Hope this is not a scam! Is it something I can give a try? Is this thing really good for me? What if I try it and it doesn't work? What happens next? What is the risk involved? What will it cost me? Can I take the risk? Should I still continue? What if I discuss this issue with someone I can confide in so as to seek his/her opinion on the matter?

All of the above questions continue to play out simultaneously until your soul and your spirit agrees on what to do at such particular times when these decisions are to be taken. If you ever felt this way, it is your instinct that is working at such time. I tag it "Instinct 101" because of the thought process it takes you through.

Funny enough, most of us don't follow our instincts. To some of us, whatever goes... And even when our instinct is trying to figure out a particular clause or bring to our attention certain ambiguity or irregularities about certain terms on which we are about to take some decisions on, we lock up pretending not to feel anything. And then we dive in only to regret our decisions later.

To say whether instincts work in every human, yes it does. It's just that some of us don't take out time to listen to that still voice whether to act or not. And for some of us, even when it is not clear to us, we find it difficult to seek the opinion of some credible persons. Sweet heart! You don't assume you know it all when you can seek the opinion of someone you can confide in.

What about research? These platforms are there to help you navigate your way through life instead of taking unnecessary risk. So use them wisely when you can. Let me end by saying this: if you don't follow your instincts appropriately, others would suggest their instincts for you to follow. #Inborn pattern #Still voice #Questions #Opinion #Research #Decision.

Feeling Untouchable

Feeling untouchable is an emotional sensation or a particular state of mind that is beyond attack or criticism of any sort. It is a kind of moral sensitivity especially in relation to personal principles or dignity that is immuned to certain attacks or criticisms.

Criticisms are bound to occur in almost every setting or aspect of the human race because humans would always be humans. Nothing ever satisfy us. Our wants are unlimited and insatiable. We want this, we want that. Some of us want it black, and some want it white. Some want it hot, and some want it cold. Some want it tall, and some want it short. Some want it slim, and some want it fat. Some want it mild, and some want it harsh. Some want it simple, and some prefer it hard. While some say you are good, some others say your good is not good enough. While some say slow down, some others echo increase the speed.

Even with a house or an estate well furnished, tasteful, and lovely to behold, you would still see somebody that would have a different opinion or sing a different song about it. And then you work so hard, the best way you can, there would still be some that would say you are a workaholic, compelling you to take some rest. Then you decide to take a rest, the next thing you would hear is you are relaxing too much. Perhaps you restructure or resolve not to sleep much, and then it is tagged insomania. Then you turn the table around, and what you would hear is keep on sleeping or even go to bed (meaning one is sleeping too much).

What about when I try to put some call across? The response I get both expressly or implied is please call me back later, I am very busy right now. And then I make a "U" turn, and it becomes: you don't call any longer. And I am like me? Really? Suddenly they forget those times you were trying to reach out, and then it looked like you were bordering them with calls. Now you decided to make some adjustments, and some become uncomfortable with it. This is the kind of world that we live in. Nothing ever satisfies, unless you are thankful and contented with what you have, while you look forward to better days ahead.

Criticisms are in various shapes and levels, but beyond criticism, there is a higher life which is the life of the "Untouchable". To attain this height, you must have gone through certain processes as well as imbibe certain virtues. It is these virtues that enable you build tough skin over certain criticisms. Anyone who is waiting to have a smooth ride without criticism is not ready to grow. It is these criticisms and the ability to manage them without losing yourself that makes you stand out (untouchable).

Are you feeling untouchable like me? Then, you must have passed some test. I call it freedom test. It is not in any ways saying one has arrived. What it is saying is that: I am a better me. I am not who I used to be. I am still evolving (growing). I am still pressing on until I reach my desired haven (goal). #State of mind #Beyond criticism #Freedom #Better me #Still pressing on #Feeling untouchable.

Freedom (Association, Speech, Movement...)

I like the following words I tag three in one word amidst other words that fosters freedom. They are Freedom of Association, Freedom of Speech, Freedom of Movement and so on.

Freedom of Association is the condition of being free or having the power to act or speak or think without externally imposed restraints. Freedom of Speech is a civil right that gives one the right to express his/herself in communication by word of mouth. Freedom of Movement is a civil right that allows you move from one place, location or position to the other without fear of intimidation or threat whatsoever.

Just imagine how life would have been if there were no certain freedoms. Imagine you not being free to associate (interact), communicate, make new friends, speak when you need to speak, act when you need to act, express yourself the best way you can, move from one point or place to the other without fear or threat whatsoever, life would be so boring and worthless, having no meaning or sense of purpose. In fact, you don't want to be in such situation because that is what I call imprisonment.

Imprisonment is not only when one go into physical prison alone. Anyone, person (s), people, group of people who is living on planet earth without freedom of association, speech, movement, as well as other basic freedom, can be likened to living in prison. If we look at it deeply, you would discover that the difference between those who are in prison and those who are not, is the freedom one party enjoys compared to the other. So, any place etc, where certain rights or basic freedom are not being enjoyed, no matter how we try to paint it, package it, fine tune it, and make it look sophisticated, it is still imprisonment. We should not wait to go into a physical prison before we know and understand what it means to be in prison.

Freedom of association, speech, movement, and the likes doesn't mean there are no regulations as to how it should be used, but rather it tends to emphasize the essence of living which are the necessary freedom put in place. Come to think of it, how do you go about your daily activities, work business and what have you if these freedoms are not put in place. Believe you me, if there are no security of these basic freedoms, certain activities, business, work etc, would not thrive.

Now you know the essence of these basic freedoms and needs for emphasis. If you don't speak out when you need to speak out appropriately, or act when you need to act accordingly, what you are trying to say is that you are in a semi prison, and I don't want to believe so, because prison experience is not what you want to add to your resume. So be free. Speak out when you need to, associate, make movements where necessary, exercise your right to basic freedom. #Freedom of Association #Without externally imposed restraints #Freedom of Speech #Communication by word of mouth #Freedom of Movement #Movement from one location to another #Imprisonment #Absence of basic freedom.

Respect People's Rights

What if that person doesn't make much sense at all, does his/her rights still needs to be respected? What if we don't like the person's face, do we still need to respect the person's rights? What if the person's right is not favourable to us, does it still need to be respected? What if the person is not as educated or sophisticated as we are, do we still respect such people's rights? What if these set of people are the weak ones among us, who don't have people to speak for them, should their rights still be respected? What if I decide to do my thing my own way, the way I feel it should be done, not minding if others like it or not, should it still be respected? What if my lifestyle and thought pattern is way far different from the other person's own, does it still need to be respected? What if you choose a road map for yourself that you want to follow, and certain persons seem not to approve of it, does it still need to be respected? What if I have limited time to respond to certain events in my life, and the time frame does not tally with that of others, does my rights still need to be respected? What if I don't meet up with certain requirements others expects of me, does my rights still need to be respected? It could just be that I like doing things my way away from the crowd, does my rights still need to be respected? What if my body system requires me to take a rest when others expect me to be up and doing, does my rights still need to be respected? What if you don't show up due to circumstance beyond your control, do you still have rights to be protected?

Each of us has rights to do what we please, restricted by the rights of others. Rights are not there to make you ungovernable, but the rights are there to protect your interest. These rights are also there to serve as check and balances. This is because some persons who feel they have arrived, may tend to be manipulative, thereby treating others as if they don't count in the human race. Off course, you count! It doesn't matter the state or status you find yourself, nobody has the right to treat you like trash or use you at will when you realise you have rights that needs to be respected, especially rights of choice. Yes! You have rights!!

Respecting people's rights doesn't mean you are weak or not firm. Instead it shows that you are wise, knowledgeable, and learned. It also shows that you understand and appreciate the fact that humans are different in so many ways. In fact, even if it is someone who is not learned in quote but understands rights, and how to deal with people's rights, such person (s) is counted among the learned unlike the person who claim to be learned but doesn't understand jack about human rights. The difference is clear!

Here is the high points of the matter! Be original. Be rational. Uphold the right virtues. Live your life the best way you can. Respect people's rights because that is the only way you can appreciate people's differences. #Respect #People #Rights #Interest #Check and balances #Wise #Knowledgeable #Learned.

Difference

Difference is the quality of being unlike or dissimilar in approach, thoughts, mindset, words..., and actions. It is that unique nature that makes two people unlike in nature or quality or form or degree.

No two persons think or reason alike. We all think or reason differently, hence the reason why we cannot process thought patterns the same way or act the same way, because while one person may be thinking one way, the other may be thinking in another way.

Sometimes these differences in humans come together in harmony. Some other times, it tend to individuality in style. Sometimes, it displays unity in diversity. You can tell it in the way we identify with different cultural heritage, belief system, religious affiliations etc, yet heading towards the inevitable destination which is death or life. It is a matter of choice, and it is these choices that determines where we finally end up. So if you want to know where your differences are leading to, check your choices.

Differences are sometimes blessings in disguise as they help to check certain excesses, creating law, order, and balance. It gives people freedom from oppression, opens up your mind and eyes to right of choice, and make you explore, venture..., living life without fear or intimidation because you have the right to do so.

Now the question is: what makes me different from the other person, and how can I utilise these differences in a positive direction?

The day you were born into this world, your arrival has been predestined. You were born to make a difference. Each of us has unique features that can make a difference in our homes, family, society, community, nations, and the world at large. It is now left for us to identify such features and put them to work. At any given time, there's something you are ment to be doing. That is why they say time waits for nobody. But if it is ment to be your time, it would wait for you as long as you align with it.

We are different in so many areas. It is pertinent to know those areas you are different from the other person and try to create harmony. How do I do this?

First, acknowledge your strength and weakness as well as that of the next person or people close to you, creating balance. Second, don't be so much in a hurry to run into conclusions because your strength may be someone else's weakness, and your weakness may be someone else's strength. Third, appreciate your difference from the next person by putting it into anything productive positively. Fourth, your differences shows that you have a right of choice. Fifth, know where to draw the line in that difference and when to create harmony. The lists are unlimited...

In conclusion, life is like a race, and in this race, you would get there before some, and some would get there before you. What really matters is as long as you get there. #Thoughts #Mindset #Approach #Words #Actions #Culture #Tradition #Belief System #Religious affiliations #Difference.

What Sells and Not

It is not uncommon this days to see certain people parade themselves as stumbling blocks in quote, all in the name of trying to get noticed and you are like: is becoming a stumbling block the only way to getting noticed? Thank goodness that this philosophy doesn't sell these days, because if it does, a good number of us would have run into extinction.

To sell is to engage in the activity of puasuading someone to buy. It also means the exchange or deliver for money or its equivalent. Which ever ways you look at it, if there's no affirmation or transactions done, it is as good as saying that selling did not take place.

Selling doesn't have to be by force, neither does it have to be a do or die affair before it can take place. With the right logic, idea, methodology, strategy and approach in place, a simple puassuation could do the miracle. So if anyone, person or group of persons or people have to become a stumbling block, bring down people, wreck businesses etc, just to get noticed or get to the top, then such person (s) does not or has not fully understood the act of selling.

Almost in everything we do, would you find sales. It is either you are selling your person, brand, name, product, goods, services etc. So sales is not just about goods and services as it is all encompassing. Effective sales focus on needs and not on frivolous issues. If any form of sales is centred on attacking people or finding faults in people all the time, then you know something is wrong somewhere because real sales focus on how to meet its worthwhile needs.

There is nothing wrong in trying to sell any form of goods and services, but it is what is sold and how it is being sold that really matters. If a product is not properly packaged, presented or represented, no matter how good such product is, it won't attract the right sales. And even if it does, it would be limited somehow. The same goes for products that is well packed and what have you, in the eyes of people, but in reality, such product turns out to be nothing to write home about. For such product, the rate of turnover would be drastically reduced.

This one is for all those who specialise in unhealthy and adulterated product, and even try to force its sales on its victims against their will or consent. Nothing is done worthwhile that is carried out by force. If it is worthwhile, then it would sell by itself, making force an exceptional case. So whatever you put out for sales, always know that it doesn't have to be an obstruction before it sells. If it has all the requirements needed for effective sales, nothing is strong enough to pin it down. So keep your head up high, be optimistic, and with the right virtues in place as well as the necessary sales mechanism, heaven is sure to be your limit. #Activity #Passuation #Exchange #Logic #Idea #Methodology #Approach #Sales.

Right of Choice

No one has the right of depriving you the right of making choices because humans in the real sense are designed to make choices. How do I know that? Inborn in humans is the will power to choose between right and wrong. This has been from the beginning when man was created and it won't change now. As at then man was given power to call forth those things that be not as though they were. And whatever he named, came into existence (enacted), and it's still trendy even till today. Man always want to be in control! As a matter of fact, the help the creator rendered to man by making him a helpmeet was thrown back to him as an excuse when man ate of the fruit he was not supposed to eat from. Ever since, man has had to do the findings, searchings, which is also likened to using his will power. Even till today, man still exhibit such trait. The only thing the creator does is to guide and advise man to choose life instead of death, while man does the part of choosing.

A right is an abstract idea of that which is due to a person or governmental body by law or tradition or nature. A choice on the other hand is the person or thing chosen or selected. We cannot separate the human race from choices because it is something that is an inbuilt right from creation, and the awareness of these rights make humans more stronger.

However, these rights does not in anyways give man the license to misbehave as there are laid down principles or guidelines to check excesses. Even in the eyes of the law, several rights and freedom exist, only that they are restricted by the rights of others. At this point, let me take some time out to highlight some of the things or areas one can direct his/her choices to:

You can choose to take a break, get refreshed, or do a tour. Rest is part of staying fit for work depending on your work schedule. You can also do a tour as it helps to broaden your horizons. Refreshment is never an understatement, especially when you know just when to do it...

You can choose to be in a particular group or not. It is not compulsory to be in any group if the group is not helping you get better but drains you.

You have a choice as to what to believe in. So many people have what they believe in. So whatever you believe in, be sure it has a positive influence on your value system as well as the people around you.

You have a choice to choose who to get attached to, just the way I have the choice to decide who I let in or let out in my life. There would always be various attachments in one's life. It is the power of choice that enables us get attached to the right ones.

You have a choice to be who you were created to be. This is one of the decisions so many people are yet to make. But the good news is that you have all that it takes to become who you were created to be. It's simple! Go back to the drawing board, and align to the real you, and then the choiced you would emerge. The above are my thoughts, and I believe you have yours too! Be free to explore!! #Abstract idea #Inborn #Inbuilt #Law #Rights #Selected #Chosen #Choices.

Deep Focus

When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? When things do not appear the way they should, what do you still see? Do you see yourself as a guide, mentor, role model etc, to someone or just an ordinary person? How do you analyse things? Do you see things the way they appear or do you deeply focus? Do you see beyond what the natural eyes can see or do you see what is staring at you in the face?

A deep focus is the central and most intense or profound part of one's attention on something. It refers to great or strong depth of the concentration of one's attention or energy on something such that it goes far down beyond what is seen in the surface. Wherever there is a deep focus, there's always a substantial result. These results don't come ordinarily!

With what is happening around the world today, as well as our immediate environment, community and systems, if there's no deep focus, one is liable to be tossed to and fro by the cunning craftiness of men. So you've got to ask yourself what do I really want and what are the procedures or steps I need to follow or take as well as place my priorities right? You've got to come to the point where you gain total control of what comes in and goes out. It begins with being content with what you have while looking forward to better days. Once that has been settled, it becomes easy to determine the pace.

Focus is relative! While you may be seeing something mind blowing, some other persons may be seeing something different. This is because, why your focus may be that of a deep one, some others may be that of the shallow or surface. This is the major reason why we can not all be the same, and why there's a huge difference between us. We don't reason or think alike!

Two people can be focusing on a thing or solving a thing, yet one comes out better than the other. So why should I compare myself or try to be someone else when my thought pattern is different from such person's thought pattern. Why fret myself when someone is prospering in one thing or the other, when I have the capacity to excell in what I do. Sometimes, we don't take out time to discover who we truly are, and so we want to be like every other person. For the fact that you don't have what that person have now, is not a licence that you won't have it later. Time and chance happen to them all. The best thing to do in this case is to align with the time.

It is either you are influencing a course or being influenced. Deep focus is where you draw the line of what is capable of influencing you. To tell you the truth, where there's no deep focus, it is very easy for someone to be swept off his/her feet. This is because you are not isolated from the system. You live in the system, work in the system, transact business in the system and so on. So tell me, where are you going to run to or hide from if you don't deeply focus?

Facing the realities of life, helps you get rid of soothsayers who are looking for people to take advantage of. But when you are deeply focused, you see things for yourself more clearly, and with the right people around you, you are sure to soar high. #Central #Most intense #Profound #Strong #Great depth #Huge concentration #Deep focus.

Show Up

The term show up has become a popular phrase as it is widely used by almost all and sundry. As popular as it is, so is its definition. To show up in simple terms is to become visible or noticeable. And to become noticeable is to be capable of being detected, easily seen and understandable.

A reasonable amount of success is recorded when you show up. There's a difference between being present in a place and showing up. One can be present in a place and yet invisible. But showing up means you are present and you are visible and noticeable. Each of us has unique presence such that when we show up in areas where we specialise, tremendous things happen. It's now left for us to identify those things we are good at such that when we show up, value is added. I mean showing up in areas of relevance. This links me to the word "excellence", which means being at your best, the best way you can. How do you know people who are excellent at what they do? They don't just make up the number wherever they find themselves, they show up for a good course.

Ssometimes, these responsibilities can be so demanding especially when you have a lot of things to put together or tidy up amidst your rest time, yet even in the midst of all these, you still make out time to show up. Why would you want to make efforts to show up? Let me guess! You know you would be singled out, identifiable, and recognized. In other words, you would be visible or noticeable. Also, there is this confidence that speaks of the capacity you have built over time, meaning that you can deliver at any time when called upon. In addition, whatever you do all the time, unconsciously or consciously, it becomes a way of life to you.

I've always nurtured this belief system for long: if you are good at what you do, don't sweat it out or stress out because you don't need to announce yourself, your works will announce you. And even when you don't want to be noticeable or visible, I mean even when you don't want to show up, you just can't hide or help it. This is because you have carve a nitche for yourself that has come to outlive you such that people look forward to your showing up.

Make no mistakes about it, there are certain persons who if they were to make wishes, they would wish that certain people don't show up, so they can have all the time and space to oppress the weak. But you see, life has a way of balancing off things. And to think that we don't always get everything we wish, makes life even more worthwhile. One of my resolves in life, is to make sure wherever I find myself, I leave a mark, legacy, something to be remembered for, and it has somehow guided my steps (moves) in all my endeavours. So now that we understand what it means to be visible, are we going to show up? Remember, you don't just add to the number, you show up! #Visible #Noticeable #Easily seen #Detectable #Understandable #Presence #Responsibility #Way of life #Show up.

Just Before You Judge

It doesn't take anything away from you to be generous! Neither is it unfair to be kind to people in unusual ways... And I know the popular saying which goes: whatever you do, people must have something to say about it, but just before you judge, it is only wise to think it over again.

To judge is to determine the result of something or an outcome. It means to form an opinion or an estimate of a particular thing in quantities or time. It also means to draw conclusion on a matter or a particular issue.

The human race is designed in such a way that it is very easy to judge people without putting into consideration certain factors that might have played out before such judgements are made. And to think that the people who are very swift in judging others are the ones who dislike judgement itself. As the saying goes: people should try to remove the plank in their eyes before they think of removing the moth in other people's eyes, as no one can effectively remove the moth in someone's eyes without removing the plank in his/her eyes. So therefore, we should be careful how we judge people, so we ourselves are not judged.

Why do you think certain people disagree more often than agree? The answer is simple! They have not known how to manage the word judgement. When we judge more than we understand, misunderstandings thrives. But when we understand more than we judge, compromises are reached. I've learnt through life experiences not to be too swift to judging people when I don't have an idea of what such persons are facing or may be facing. The proper thing to do is to gather your facts or get armed with facts from reliable sources. Until then, it's advisable and wise to keep your cool.

Sometimes, we are prone to judging what we see on the outward or surface, leaving the inward out. Can I announce to you that in some cases, it's not all about the outward appearance or what the eyes can see from the surface but also about the intent of the heart. If the intent of the heart is good (intact), no matter how a person is judged, such persons still come out looking stronger and better than he/she was. But if the intent is wrong, no matter how right the judgement may appear, it won't stand the test of time because someday the truth would be revealed.

The outward and the inward parts has its place in judgement processes. Never judge from the outward appearance alone or on what you can see presently. Sometimes things don't appear the way they seem. It takes a person of wisdom, a matured mind..., and a responsible fellow to be able to decipher certain ambiguity in certain statements as well as process it, interprete it, and make decision on it. The watch word here is to find a way of balancing intents and what the eyes can see. When you are sure you've done your home work (played your part well), you can now make your judgements. #Estimate #Findings #Opinion #Outcome #Facts #Intent #Conclusion #Judgement.

Don't Get Stuck

Why get stuck when you can make options or move on to the next phase or level in life? Why allow situations get you down when you can find your way through such situation and come off in flying colours? To get stuck is to stay put especially in a particular place with the motto "no going backwards, no moving forward". This is something you don't want to happen to you because the experience is not something to write home about. So get up, think out of the box, and make the necessary move.

There are so many things that one can get stuck in as they come in various forms. Imagine you having a target to reach a particular height in your career. And then you go on and on making spectacular progress only to get to a point that will amount to a turning point, and then it appears there's a standstill somewhere, and you are like what the hell! Sometimes, when it gets to this point, there are many thought patterns to draw from this: It could be that you need to review your steps and launch out again. It could be that there is a weight that you have acquired along the line that is slowing you down, that you need to let go. It could also be that you need to think out of the box, and go the extramile. May be you need to get refreshed, revitalised, and renewed by taking a break and doing some tour. Perhaps, you need to seek the aid of the supernatural. The above and lots more could be an eye opener!

Furthermore, you may be handling a project that has a time frame which by the end of it, something is expected to spring (come) out of it. And then you give to it, put in your best, time, and efforts into it. The good thing about it is that it keeps moving from one success to the other, and then comes a moment in your life when you are expected to experience a major breakthrough that will change your life forever, and then there's a pause or delay somewhere that you just can't explain. And you are like what happened or what is happening? Where did I go wrong? We've all been there at one point in time in our lives.

I guess I need to quickly chip in this: sometimes, at the verge of a major breakthrough, one may begin to experience some challenges, delays and some irregularities that if someone doesn't take care or manage it properly, one may decide to quit. But how can one come so far, and what comes next is a thought to quit? Yeah, others may want to, but you don't have to. There's always a way out if you search deep within your heart. Just don't get stuck where you are, keep marching forward!

Major occurrences or events that are capable of making us ask why, are there to build us up for the next phase of life, so that we can be matured enough to carry the weight of the responsibility that comes with it. When we don't understand these fundamental truths, we begin to look for short cuts or who or what to put the blame on, instead of moving on. I always have this philosophy that keeps me going inspite of what comes my way, and it says: if one way doesn't work out, try out the next one as long as you don't get stuck, and would still remember your source. So whatever philosophy you choose to come up with, just make sure you don't get stuck! #Stuck #Delay #Standstill #Options #Move #Think out of the box #Refresh #Next phase #Source #Don't get stuck.

Laughter Therapy

Laughter is the activity of showing or feeling mirth or pleasure or happiness. It is also an activity that expresses the manifestation of joy, excitement, or scorn. Laughter is a medicine to the soul. It is therapeutic. It prevents strains, unnecessary aging..., and eases off pressure. A therapy on the other hand is the act of caring for someone which could be in the form of medication or remedial training etc.

Studies and researches have shown that laughter is the solution to some health challenges which unknown to us, we take piles of medication, only to discover that a mere laughter could prevent such health disorder. We don't laugh because we want to, we laugh because it is helpful, healthy, and worthwhile to the body system.

Most people today are too serious chasing after one thing or the other, that they forget to introduce or add laughter into their program. The issue is not the busy schedule, business activity, work etc, but not knowing when to loosen up, relax, and laugh. For some of us, we think that unless we become too serious, work, business and other activities won't go on. Hello workaholic! You need a break, and that break is laughter.

Laughter colours your world. It shows a sense of belonging, expresses a sigh of relief, heals some pain especially emotional stress. It helps to reduce wrinkles in the body. It also aid the heart beat, prevent depression, and other negative tendencies.

People who laugh when they should, help to boost their life span. You look good when you smile. As a matter of fact, there's no way you can become a saddist when you smile often because saddist themselves would be far from you. Laughter in its right order, leaves you with an open mind, and opens up doors of favour and opportunities where those who frown a lot cannot enter. It endears you to great friends, well wishers, and even your enemies would have no choice at times than to be a blessing to you. However, I need to state categorically that it is not all laughter's that are ment for happiness or mirth, some are ment to scorn. Let me shed (throw) more light here.

Not all laughter's are designed to heal or are healthy or necessary at a given period of time. Some are ment to scorn, inflict pain, cause damage..., and ruin a just course. So instead of the laughter achieving what it should naturally do to the body system, it ends up doing the reverse. People should be careful and know where to draw the line in certain laughters. Balance is the keyword!

Whichever way you look at it, laughter is essential in our daily lives. And the ability to know when and where to apply it, makes you on top of your game. People who laugh, live longer and age lesser! #Mirth #Happiness #Joy #Excitement #Pleasure #Laughter #Medication #Therapy #Health.

Light Amidst Darkness

Light in the terms of physics is an electromagnetic radiation that can produce a visual sensation. To light up something is to illuminate it. If it is not giving you illumination, then it is not light. Tunnel on the other hand is a passageway through or under something, usually underground. It can be likened to a confinement. Yet, it cannot stop light from shinning through it, where there is illumination.

Light is not the absence of darkness but the the dominance of light over darkness, in such a way that once, light steps in, darkness has no chioce than to disappear. Sometimes, the intention of the light is not to chase the darkness but the darkness itself just can't help or stand it, as it is being chased away even by the slightest ray of light. This is to show the uniqueness of light amidst darkness. And what does it suggest to us? It doesn't matter the amount of darkness around you or militataing against you, as long as you represent the light, even in the midst of darkness and obscurity, you would still shine.

Many at times, we spend much time magnifying the darkness around us instead of making efforts to become more of the light. Darkness doesn't respond to any other language than the light, no matter your status, position, or pedigree in life. Therefore, your (our) focus should not be centred on the darkness but on how you (we) can become the light, because darkness will always be darkness.

I know when the word darkness is mentioned, what comes to the minds of certain people is the negative, especially those who attach so many meanings to certain term or word. Please follow me closely with an open mind.

Darkness as used in this context is not in any ways referring to people who do not share the same belief system with us. Neither is darkness referred to people who according to us are labelled sinners, because we have certain perspective about such persons. What if I told you that some darkness are necessary evils, because without them, there won't be opportunity to shine your light. Now, here is what I mean by darkness:

Darkness is knowing the truth in all its ramifications and still never acknowledging that it is the truth. Darkness is when someone is pretending to be a sheep whereas such person (s) is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Darkness is anything that has experienced darkness and light but chooses to remain in the dark. Darkness is anything, activities..., that does not support the growth and development of any institution or organization etc, but delights or take pleasure in its failure. I can go on and on...

From the above, it is plain to see that darkness cannot chase away darkness, except the true light. When you (we) become the light, darkness will have no place to hide among us. Anything less, would amount to chasing shadows! #Radiation #Illumination #Dominance #Light #Obscurity #Necessary evils #Darkness.

The Tongue

The tongue is the smallest part of the body system and also one of the five sense organs we have, as it is responsible for taste. To describe the tongue, one can say that the tongue, is a mobile mass of mascular tissue covered with mucous membrane and located in the oral cavity. Small, you would say but powerful as you can never underestimate the power and display of the tongue.

If there's anything to be careful about, it is the tongue. It can destroy things within a second, and it can build up again. It can add fuel to fire, and it can add water to drought. It can bring down a house that is united if not checked. It can ruin marriages if not controlled. It can make cold good time relationships if not seasoned. It can turn homes upsidedown if not placed in order. It can make people fight before they realise that there is actually nothing to fight about. It can create enemity between two brothers or sisters who love themselves very much if not tamed. It can cause darkness, and it can give light. It can kill and it can make alive. It can make broken and it can mend the broken. It can make you cry and it can make you laugh. It can make your spirit low and it can uplift your spirit. It can make one fail and it can make one pass his/her examinations. It can discredit and it can commend (credit) you.

Do I hear that the tongue is small? Other parts of the body can easily be tamed but the tongue needs special attention. The tongue needs conscious, deliberate attempt to ensure effective taming. First, it has to start from the mind.

As he thinks in his heart, so is he... The tongue functions hand in hand with the mind. For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. Sometimes, I ask myself, why do people get irrational at times, and I am like why can't certain people just learn how to control their tongue until a matter gets out of hand? Look no further, it begins with the mind. Whatever you want to speak about has first registered in the mind, and has been processed before it comes out of the mouth.

Some other times, some people don't think or reason before they talk. They feel its their right to talk any how, as some of them had tagged it freedom of speech. But the so called freedom of speech is a right of expression restricted by the rights of other persons. So it is adviceable that before anyone speaks, such person (s) should think properly and reason out facts, what you call common sense before dishing it out, so as not to create more problems than they already existed.

Knowing when to resolve or create a balance as we go about certain findings, quest..., lies in the power of your mind and tongue. So I would rather use my tongue wisely and enjoy its fruits than otherwise...It doesn't take anything from you to use the tongue wisely but takes a lot when used inappropriately. Never underestimate the power of your tongue! #The tongue #Small #Powerful #Sense organ #Speech #Think #Reason #Mind.

Created To Be

Have you ever cared to ask certain questions like who am I? Who was I created to be? For what purpose do I exist to fulfill? Am I really exploring the hidden talents or potentials within me? What really drives me? What am I living for? Who do I see myself as? Who do people say I am, and who do I say I am?

Identity is key word in any organized system, and its importance cannot be overemphasized. We need to get to the point where our lives are no longer determined by what other people label us as but by what we see ourselves as. And for this to be effective, you need to know who you truly are.

Yeah, sometimes life throws so many things at you that makes you want to doubt your true person. And for some of us, the cares of this life, the pressure from family, the chase after money, the various responsibilities we have to put up with, the need to meet up with certain targets or deadlines..., tend to militatate against or challenge the true persons we were created to be. Some may even say: what would discovering who I am fetch me? Is it going to put food on my table? Is it going to pay my bills? Is it going to take care of my immediate, short term and long term needs?

The above questions and lots more are some of the questions certain persons may want to put forth as an excuse to not discovering who they truly are. But still it doesn't change the subject matter as to who I was created to be.

To be realistic, life is not that easy as you have to keep up with diverse responsibilities. But it can be easy if you find, discover or search out those things you like or enjoy doing such that even when working at it, you derive pleasure, and at the same time getting returns from it. It is the above feature that motivates you forward such that even when you are stressed out, you don't wear out because you are in the centre of your purpose.

The everyday routine of life will never cease. There would always be one need or the other to meet. Responsibilities will always be there, and may increase as one steps into a new level. No amount of money would satisfy anyone, as there would always be more to aspire for.

If after the chase of worldly gains, and the cares of life, and we still haven't discovered who we are, it would amount to wasting of precious time on planet earth, because nothing last forever except that of eternal value. Though at the earlier stage, it's not that easy following, but as you continue in your purpose, certain things begin to fall in pleasant places which may be immediate, short term, or long term. And who says your purpose can't sustain all your needs, when you follow it judiciously? May be I should ask again: what were you created to be? The question is mine and yours to answer... #Identity #Potential #Drive #Hidden talent #Purpose.