What Makes Relationships Last

Relationship is not the absence of misunderstandings, disagreements, strains etc, but the ability to courteously, carefully, and wisely deal with it in such a way that you don't lose the other partner, but at the same time making your points clear or known.

Relationships are mutual dealings or connections or communications among persons or groups of persons. It spells out the responsibilities both parties owe to each other. It states either impliedly or expressly that if you are responsible for me, I am responsible for you, and not a one sided thing in which one refuses to show any form of commitment, and expects the other to be all over the places for him/her or go the extra mile for him/her. Who is now playing the role of the unwise?

Relationships are not made in heaven. The one in heaven is already settled, and doesn't need any reformation. Here on planet earth, it is the human race that establish relationships. And how that relationship turns out to be is determined by humans itself.

So if we are expecting our relationships to suddenly take a sharp turn without doing anything to work it out, then we may have to wait for ever and watch it crashland. Enough of the holier than thou attitude or should I be a little bit mild, by calling it sanctimonious attitude. It leads to no where.

In the first place, relationships exists between persons or group of persons who have different backgrounds, different value system, educational background, religious upbringing, cultural heritage, social class, race, colour, tongues, tribes... So tell me how do we deal with these differences? It is beyond just playing the nice or moral person. You have to work it out. There's a place for balance.

Has it ever occurred to you why certain relationships which in the eyes of others are intact and the best ever, up to the extent that people would do anything to model their lives after it, only for you to hear the shocker of your life that the relationship is no more. And you begin to wonder and ponder why such relationships should end up like that after having so much prospect or being the talk of the town. Dear, you don't want to go that far as to sourcing for the details before you learn to protect your relationships.

Relationsps are not easy to build but easier to destroy (bring down). The wise know where to draw the line when certain limits are crossed. You need to be sensitive and read between the lines. You don't have to win every argument just to be tagged:" The Superman", at the expense of your relationships. Know when to own up for peace to reign. For any relationship to thrive, there must be a place for compromise. This is the keyword (password) for any relationships.

I am aware of the fact that there are some relationships, no matter how hard you try, it just won't reach a compromise. Sweetheart, don't waste your time, energy, efforts, resources... on relationships that won't just agree, because in essense, there's no relationship without compromise. Otherwise, it sucks, drains, and deter you from moving forward. What makes relationships last, is the simple philosophy: As I rise, you rise with me, and when you are down, I would go the extra mile to get you up whether I am happy or not. #Misunderstanding #Disagreements #Carefulness #Wisdom #Responsibility #Connections #Communication #Different backgrounds... #Relationships.